Thread:TVfan99/@comment-1509826-20140419221107/@comment-24819071-20140420003729

Okay, so first this character tends to blame him/herself a lot. Ok, that is actually a good sign. It means they are capable of self-reflection and are self-aware. Tied with the fact that this character also, as you say, feels miserable and often wonders what they might have done wrong to cause the demise of a relationship means that this character is capable of taking responsibility and based on your answers, he/she is rather sensitive, emotional and may even be somewhat submissive or shy. He/she likely suffers from very low self-esteem, but tries to compensate with a facade of confidence (as you already indicated, but I don't believe that this rises to a level of grandiosty or narcissism).

Identity is stable, he/she feels a coherent identity. So no issues here with any sort of identity disturbance.

So this character can connect to people, but feels indifferent towards strangers. This is normal and all people experience this.

He/she does not "split" or lack object constancy as indicated by the fact that you claim that he/she can psychologically integrate the good and bad qualities of others. So there is no black or white thinking, which is a major defense mechanism for personality disordered individuals, and particularly those with BPD and NPD - they cannot integrate the good and bad qualities of people. People are either "all bad" or "all good", with no grey area.

No compulsive behaviours, nor does this character have disturbing thought processes related to sadomasochism.

My conclusion is that this character suffers from low self-esteem, is likely to suffer from major depression and social anxiety disorder. That's my diagnosis.